We often ask, why me? Neglecting to see the truth between the lines. This quote by Epictetus makes complete sense, even when talking to a friend or loved one who neglects to be understanding or supportive.

I recently had a discussion (more like an argument) with my wife, who proceeded to ask me if something was wrong, of which I shared with her that I needed more help with our rambunctious kids (long story) on vacation. She proceeded toget upset and attack me verbally. I recognized that she was hurt by my request, but it was MY TRUTH, that she took to heart and heard me criticizing her as a parent. To her it came across as me telling her that she was a bad mother. So it resulted into an argument and hurt feelings. Yes, she was pissed by HER view of my truth. (I have never called her a bad parent)

"People are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of them."

- Epictetus


Epictetus painting

Epictetus (Greek: ?????????; AD 55 – AD 135) was a Greek sage and Stoic philosopher. He was born a slave at Hierapolis, Phrygia (present day Pamukkale, Turkey), and lived inRome until banishment when he went to Nicopolis in northwestern Greece where he lived the rest of his life.

Philosophy, Epictetus taught, is a way of life and not just a theoretical discipline. To Epictetus, all external events are determined by fate, and are thus beyond our control, but we can accept whatever happens calmly and dispassionately. Individuals, however, are responsible for their own actions, which they can examine and control through rigorous self-discipline.

Suffering arises from trying to control what is uncontrollable, or from neglecting what is within our power. As part of the universal city that is the universe, human beings have a duty to care for all fellow humans. The person who follows these precepts will achievehappiness and peace of mind.

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